Life partner more than an accessory

This week's Vancouver bachelor, Graham Nordin. (SUBMITTED)

What do you look for in a partner?

A woman who has passion about what they do, the life they live and who they are. Also, someone who can speak openly and honestly. If that foundation of trust and communication is there early on in a relationship, it makes everything so much easier. You become great friends, as well as partners, because you're able to trust each implicitly and can share with each other openly.

What makes a healthy relationship?

Integration in each other’s lives is important. Having someone who is a part of your life and not just in your life. When they are just in your life they feel like an accessory, as if they are just on the outside. You are in this thing together. Even when you’re not together, you’re together. There is a level of solidarity between the two of you.

When on a date, how do you know if it’s going to be casual or serious?

You can categorize someone instantly by assessing how a woman carries herself. If someone is well put together, carries herself with poise and is articulate, I’ll see her as someone I could potentially invest in seriously. There are also girls who you may think are ‘hot’ but don’t regard as relationship material.

So is a skimpy outfit is not advised if you want to be put in the ‘take serious’ category?

You need to ask, ‘Who am I trying to attract and what am I looking for?’ and present accordingly. Attention can be put in the same bucket, but know how to recognize the wrong kind of attention from the wrong type of guy. Exude what you want to receive from someone else. If you just want to go out and party that’s they type of guy you’ll attract. The right type of a guy will be attracted to you as a person. Like-minded people end up attracting each other.

What would you tell your younger self?

Value your relationships. It's the people that come into your life that shape you as a person, from your ideals and values to what you look for in others. They might not be around forever but in that time in your life they are so pivotal in shaping who you are. They are all part of the chapters of the book of who you are.

Last words of wisdom:

Be bold. Live with passion. If you like somebody, tell them. If you want to be with somebody, show them. If you live with your heart on your sleeve and surround yourself with quality people, great things will come to you.

 

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