November 29th., 2011
Being Right or Being Wrong
Most conflicts result from the fact that we think we are right, and the other person is wrong, or vice versa. Each person digs in their heels and refuses to give in. Success calls for a much more flexible and conscious approach. Very few people like to be told, or to admit that they are wrong. It's a matter of personal pride. And no one appreciates being subjected to domination or criticism. When I am faced with this type of situation, I try to understand the other person's point of view, and I don't automatically rule it out. Then in a friendly way, I tried to explain my position. When those involved step back and try to be objective, most conflicts can be resolved. However, if after discussion each person feels obligated to maintain their original position, then a simple expression of respect is all that there is left to do.
Today, I strive to respect the points of view and approaches of others. I try to see things from their viewpoint, and I describe mine in a non-threatening manner. If after discussion each of us is convinced that we are right, I seek to show respect for divergent points of view.