So many people, large extent of that being women worry about turning 30, 40 etc... so as my 30th approaches, I find myself pondering all of the things I wanted to do by the time I was 30. Where I was "supposed" to travel to, how many children I was "supposed" to have, how long I would have been married for. So many women have a time line for their lives, I most certainly did... and oh boy, things did not go as planned!
I always expected I would marry my high school sweetheart we would have a house full of kids by the time I was 25 and I would be living each day happily in my successful career!
At 22 and single, I entered the real estate program at the Calgary Real Estate Board, I spent 4 great years working with sellers and with amazing buyers for Century 21 Foothills Real Estate. My fifth year, the year that they say makes or breaks ya, broke me! The market dropped and everyone was thirsty for clients and buyers were looking for a deal even if it meant pulling a fast one on you and writing with another agent (which means you just worked for free... time away from your loved ones, for nothing). I took my work home with me, and my heart couldn't handle it anymore, neither could my pocketbook! Real Estate agents can make serious coin, but they also pay out the ying yang for fees too, their brokerage, the real estate boards, advertising, for that fancy vehicle, for the gas they are constantly putting in going to showings and traveling to listing presentations, phone bills, client gifts, etc! Real Estate is one of your, if not the biggest investment of your life, so doesn't it make sense to pay a professional a considerable amount to ensure you are protected and getting what you want?! That is my forever thought after having been a Real Estate Agent! Yes sometimes it seems like your Realtor just made a quick buck and, that may be true, but think of the countless hours they may have put in with 10 other clients and never earned a dollar, it is a balancing game, and I can respect that now having gone through it. I also wouldn't want to work the long hours again, be a slave to my phone, it is a lifestyle that to me wasn't worth all the money in the world.
So back to where I was, now at 27... my dream career over, no idea what I wanted to do with my life, still not married, still no kids, but I did have a good man at my side! I worked a number of jobs after leaving real estate and after about 8 months found my way back to the family I had come to love at my office Century 21 Foothills in High River! Still 27 that wonderful man at my side proposed and we were married later that year! Four weeks after the wedding we found out I was expecting... 9 months later we had our little guy Jack, now almost 1 year later, we are expecting our second. I am back to work for 5 months, and enjoy having adult interaction again! Ha ha! But boy, let me tell you, I couldn't be at a better place in my life, even considering the curve balls life has thrown my way! I have found my dream career... being a MOM, and enjoy being back at the office! I get to spend each day with my loving hubby and surrounded by an amazing family, both at home and work! Life going into 30 couldn't be much better, so I am thankful for my health, the health of my babies and I welcome today, June 25th, 2014 the day I turn 30!
I am not sure if my outlook on 30 would be te same if I still had my mom here. She passed away January 15th, 2013, I had never lost anyone close to me before, our family has been so fortunate. But after losing her, I have certainly realized that life is such a precious thing, we never know the hours on our clock, we need to cherish every moment and the ones we love in it, don't sweat the small stuff, forgive those who have wronged us, and live each day as if it were your last. My mom taught me so many life lessons and such as this one, not fretting as some do over the age we are turning but embracing it and being thankful that we were given the gift of another day, another year! So Happy birthday to me and here is hoping for another amazing 30 years! RIP to my sweet mamma and thank you for all of the gifts and life lessons you have given and continue to give me!
On Turning 30! A personal look into my life. By Candace Gillanders Century 21 Foothills Real Estate