What Did You Say?

Have you ever spent a great deal of time trying to explain something to someone, but still left the conversation feeling as though the other person didnt really hear a word you said? 

Effective listening is really a skill, often one that requires practice to learn. Oliver Wendell Holmes was right when he penned, "To be able to listen to others in a sympathetic and understanding manner is perhaps the most effective mechanism in the world for getting along with people and tying up their friendship for good."

Some experts say that a good listening skill may hold the key to a successful relationship, because it could make or break one. There are three essential ways of careful listening. Caress, don't forget this word and you begin becoming an expert listener. You want to caress your speaker with an open heart and attentive eyes.

C------ concentrate
A------ acknowledging
R------ respond
E------ exercising emotional control
S------ sensing
S------ structuring

The first thing you want to do in a conversation is to take away the "you" focus. This includes what you think, what you hear, what you what to hear, what you think is being said. Forget about whatever it is that 'You' want from a conversation; unless of course you are the one needing to be heard.

Learn how to dismiss everything that is happening around you. Effective listening is that subconscious technique that needs to be done consciously for precise listening that becomes effective because complete detail information gets into the brain, can be accessed later and absorbed for immediate use. Mastery listening will come when you can block everything out and  almost through a funnel only hear what is being directed specifically towards you.

Using these tips, practise your effective listening skills and remember, if someone is taking the time to have a discussion with you, it is only polite and respectful to listen to what they have to say.

Jeremy Moore, Sales Respresentative

Century 21 United Realty*

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