In cultivating loving-kindness, we train first to be honest, loving and compassionate toward ourselves. Rather than nurturing self-denigration, we begin to cultivate a clear-seeing kindness. Sometimes we feel good and strong but sometimes we feel inadequate and weak. Our loving kindness is unconditional. No matter how we feel, we can aspire to be happy. We can learn to act and think in ways that sow seeds of our future well being, gradually becoming more aware of what causes happiness as well as what causes distress. Without loving kindness for ourselves it is so difficult to genuinely feel it for others.